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Monday Aug 05, 2024
Monday Aug 05, 2024
In this enlightening episode, I sit down with Tiffany Byrd, a NC & SC family law and estate attorney to discuss a topic that can significantly impact your financial security and property investment decisions, especially if you’ve gone through a divorce.
Tiffany and I dive deep into the concept of co-ownership agreements, which are crucial for protecting your hard-earned equity when purchasing a property with a partner you’re not married to. We start by exploring the reasons why such an agreement is necessary and beneficial and we'll break down the key components of a co-ownership agreement, including terms regarding the proceeds if the relationship were to end.
Additionally, we discuss practical tips for bringing up the topic of a co-ownership agreement with your partner and how to navigate the potential discomfort around these conversations. The customization, flexibility and revision opportunities of these agreements make it the proactive protection tool you need if you're considering buying a home with a partner you're not married to. Tiffany's insights shed light on the importance of planning and open communication, not just for the protection of your assets but also for the health of your relationship.
This episode is a must-listen for any woman considering co-owning a property post-divorce. It’s about empowering yourself with the right knowledge and tools to make confident, informed decisions. Whether you’re navigating new relationships, rebuilding your life after a divorce, or simply exploring your options, this conversation provides the guidance you need to protect your investments and secure your future. Tune in and learn how to take control of your financial and personal well-being.
For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info
Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.
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Episode Moments:
04:57 Understanding Co-Ownership Agreements
09:40 When to Establish a Co-Ownership Agreement
15:59 Key Components of a Co-Ownership Agreement
24:56 Flexibility and Revisions in Agreements
27:36 The One Sign it May Be Time to Pause
DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.
Monday Jul 29, 2024
Monday Jul 29, 2024
In this insightful episode, we sit down with Corinne Brown, a seasoned business owner who shares her personal story of running a business through marriage and divorce, not once, but twice. With candor and insight, Corinne shares her experiences of running a business while dealing with the personal turmoil and challenges of two divorces. There are so many unexpected feelings that surface, oftentimes leaving you questioning yourself in the aftermath of a divorce. From the financial implications to the emotional roller coaster, Corinne offers valuable lessons and advice for other women entrepreneurs facing similar situations.
Learn about the importance of legal and financial consultations, maintaining mental wellness, and balancing personal and professional life, especially when children are involved. This episode is a beacon for businesswomen navigating the complexities of divorce, offering advice and encouragement for maintaining balance between personal and professional life.
For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info
Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.
Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.
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Corrine Brown is the founder of The Fresh Expert, Tupperware Leader, Direct Sales Expert
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Episode Moments:
04:03 Divorce and Business Challenges
10:57 Business Impact and Personal Struggles
15:15 Financial Realities of Self-Employment
20:24 Navigating Emotional Turmoil in Business
24:23 Reevaluating Priorities and Embracing Flexibility
29:01 Practical Advice for Business Owners Facing Divorce
38:10 Don't Go it Alone
DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.
Monday Jul 22, 2024
Monday Jul 22, 2024
In this episode I'm diving into a topic that I wish more women knew to spend more time on in their divorce process: the importance of having a detailed and specific divorce agreement.
This crucial episode explains how clarity in your agreement can prevent future disputes, protect you legally, and provide peace of mind. I'll share practical tips and real-life examples, highlighting areas such as being specific with dates, timelines, financial details, and defining terms, to ensure your agreement is as precise as possible. Need help making sure it's drafted with that intention? Sure thing! In addition to working with an experienced professional, I'll cover a few of my top tips to make that happen such as reviewing it with a trusted source and revising it, thinking about long term scenarios and the importance of documenting everything - and what exactly that means.
Whether you're just starting the process or revisiting your agreement, this episode is packed with essential insights to help you safeguard your future.
For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info
Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.
Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.
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Episode Moments:
03:51 Why Clarity and Precision Matter
07:59 Key Areas to Specify in Your Agreement
10:52 Financial Obligations and Asset Division
16:39 Defining Terms and Responsibilities
24:32 Legal Perspectives and Practical Tips
34:24 Safeguarding Your Future
DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.
Monday Jul 01, 2024
Monday Jul 01, 2024
Divorce is an emotional rollercoaster and I've certainly been experiencing the turbulence while dealing with my divorce, even years after the separation. When you're riding the wave, it can be easy to respond with emotionally charged reactions, especially when it comes to communicating with your ex. However, maintaining your sense of self-control is so important, even if it's not easy.
In this episode I'm going to highlight several cues that can help you identify when you're emotionally charged and provide six practical strategies for managing your emotionally charged state so you can regain control of your responses. Join me as I navigate the complexities of post-divorce emotions and encourage you to find your own path to healing.
For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info
Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.
Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.
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Episode Moments:
03:40 The Importance of Self-Control During Divorce
06:00 Recognizing Emotionally Charged Cues
13:37 Strategies for Maintaining Composure
18:55 Community & a Guiding Light
DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.
Monday Jun 03, 2024
Monday Jun 03, 2024
Getting a teen to open up isn't always the easiest, so how do we do it in this especially difficult time? How do we regulate our own emotions so that we can support them in regulating theirs? And most importantly, is it possible to actually strengthen our relationship with our teens during and after a divorce, and if so, how do we do that?
This episode continues the conversation with parents of teens educator, Ann Coleman, diving into how you can maintain and even strengthen your bond with your teenage child during this transition. Learn tips on the parenting style that fosters autonomy, empathy, and open communication. Discover how to respect their feelings and how to listen in a way that encourages them to share more. We also tackle the challenge of managing your own emotional turmoil, offering strategies for stress reduction and emotional regulation that can model resilience and emotional intelligence for your teen. Whether you're worried about rebellion, co-parenting confrontations, or simply striving to be the parent your teen needs during this time, this episode is a beacon of understanding, packed with actionable insights and compassionate advice to help you and your teen navigate this journey with grace and closer connection.
For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info
Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.
Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.
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References:
Emotional Agility by Susan David
Episode 71
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Episode Moments:
04:31 Understanding Teen Guilt and Communication Challenges
05:52 The Impact of Parenting Styles on Teen Communication
08:38 Encouraging Open Dialogue Around Co-Parenting Arrangements
15:71 The Importance of Emotional Regulation for Parents
22:59 Understanding Teen Brain Development and Reactivity
31:32 Strengthening Parent-Teen Relationships
Monday May 27, 2024
Monday May 27, 2024
It can be tempting to think of your teens as mature enough to handle more information than what you may tell the little ones, but what is actually appropriate to communicate with them when telling them about your divorce? Does that differ if you're not able to sit down with your soon to be ex and tell your teen together? Do we ask their preferences and involve them in the decision making process to the upcoming transition? What type of expectations do we set with them?
Discover expert advice on how to talk to your teens about separation, the delicate balance between sharing and withholding information and navigating decisions that need to be made post-separation that affect them. Teen parenting educator, Ann Coleman, joins us to shed some light on how you can create a supportive environment for your teen's development during these challenging times.
Whether you're in the midst of navigating parenting through a divorce or just keen on understanding the teenage brain better, this episode sheds light on creating stability, understanding, and love in the changing dynamics of a family.
For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info
Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.
Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.
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Episode Moments:
05:14 Giving Your Child the Best Version of You
09:19 Expert Advice on Discussing Divorce with Teenagers
13:34 Addressing Teenagers' Needs and Questions During Divorce
19:28 Decisions on Living Arrangements Post-Divorce
25:34 Separating the "Ex" from the "Parent"
29:02 Navigating Changes and Maintaining Honest Conversations with Teens
Monday May 20, 2024
Monday May 20, 2024
Divorce is more than just an emotional rollercoaster; it's a significant financial transition that demands careful planning and consideration. Often, the elements of finance in divorce, such as asset division, long-term impacts on finances, and considerations for future needs, are overlooked in the rush to finalize the separation.
Joined by Jessica Garcia, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Divorce Coach, we dive into the intricacies of managing financial assets and liabilities during a divorce, providing insights and strategies to help you navigate these turbulent waters with greater confidence and foresight.
For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info
Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.
Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.
CONNECT WITH JAMIE:
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Jessica Garcia is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and a Certified Divorce Coach.
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References:
Episode 55 - Navigating Mortgage Options to Keep Your Home in a Divorce
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Episode Moments:
06:21 Tax Implications in Divorce
11:27 Overlooked Financial Impacts
17:52 Opportunity Costs and Decision Making in Divorce
22:45 The Importance of Proactive Planning
29:14 Creating Your Best Strategy
DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.
Monday May 13, 2024
Monday May 13, 2024
Splitting your assets in a divorce is no fun, and for many situations it can be convoluted and confusing. There's marital property, separate property, some states have divisible property... how do you differentiate between it all?
I've asked family law attorney, Theresa Viera, to join me today and help us understand the nuances of what constitutes separate property versus marital property, and to offer specific examples to illustrate how assets like retirement accounts and homes are evaluated and divided. Learn about the impact of contributions to marital assets and how that can create a marital interest even in what you may have thought was only separate property.
For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info
Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.
Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.
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Theresa Viera is a Family Law Attorney, Family Financial Certified Mediator, and the Founder of Modern Legal.
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Episode Moments:
06:00 Understanding Community vs. Equitable Distribution States
10:31 Marital vs. Separate Property: Definitions and Examples
19:46 The Impact of Marital Contributions on Separate Property
27:00 Factors Influencing Equitable Property Division
32:08 Valuing Personal Property in Divorce
37:27 Protecting Your Interests
DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.
Monday May 06, 2024
Monday May 06, 2024
As women, we tend to carry a burden and responsibility in our minds that's considering everyone else but us. And we hardly speak up about it. When we do start to think about what we want, we somehow find a way to downplay it, dismiss it or even try to convince ourselves we're being unreasonable. "I should be able to just get over this." "I just have too high of expectations." Statements like that can lead to pressure and shame spirals, which lead to overwhelm.
Too much overwhelm can (and certainly will) lead to an elevated and reactive emotional state. A divorce presents its fair share of overwhelm, but is still best navigated when you can keep your wits about you. This episode is all about offering you an antidote to your overwhelm so you can better manage your emotions and reactions, ultimately promoting a calmer, more reflective state of being. By the end, you'll have five quick tricks you can implement today to get your emotions under control before the overwhelm hijacks you.
For more information on the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative and to access the free resource center, please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info
Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.
Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.
CONNECT WITH JAMIE:
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Episode Moments:
03:42 Build Up of Overwhelm
07:42 The Impact of Judgment-Free Emotion Management
11:49 Five Techniques to Manage Emotions
21:12 Lifelong Applicability
DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.
Monday Apr 29, 2024
Monday Apr 29, 2024
If you're at your wits end with your marriage, feeling lost, and have a thousand questions swirling in your head about your future's unknown, this is the episode is for you. This episode provides emotional support and practical advice for women considering divorce, feeling overwhelmed by the decision-making process.
We discuss how intense emotions like anxiety and stress biologically messes with your ability to process information and make decisions, so you can understand why it's so hard for you to figure out what to do first. Then I'm going to share what you want to do first, in the very beginning, if you're considering a divorce. This first step is going to give you the tool you need to gain clarity on what you need to know, who can help you, and offer you guidance that you can take throughout the entire divorce process if that's what ends up occurring. If you want to dissipate the brain fog and find a clear path, then tune in to learn from those who have been where you are.
References:
Episode 56
The accompanying worksheet can be found in the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative's free resource library. Please visit https://peaceofminddivorce.info
Follow us on Instagram @divorcedanddeterminedaf for more ways to help you prepare for what's to come in the divorce journey.
Jamie Milam is a divorcée, Realtor®, Certified Divorce Specialist®, and aligned strategy enthusiast.
CONNECT WITH JAMIE:
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Episode Moments:
04:10 The Science Behind Your Overwhelm
09:15 Your First Practical Step
14:35 Navigating Key Areas of Divorce
22:22 Empowering Yourself
DISCLAIMER: The commentary on this podcast is not intended to serve as or replace professional legal, financial or medical advice. While the insights may have wide applicability, listeners should consult with an attorney, CPA, financial advisor, therapist or physician in your state to obtain advice with respect to your particular issue and/or case.